Staying at Home with Yourself: a Self-Care Story

Staying home can be difficult. The notion in itself sounds easy, sure, but that’s without taking into consideration all of the nuanced difficulties we face as humans in unique situational circumstances. So forgive yourself, for having a hard time, for only just coping. If all you can manage right now is simply surviving, then you’re still doing a good job and I’m proud of you.

If you are feeling somewhat comfy at home and wanting to use this time to get to know yourself better, then self-care can be a great place to start. In a world designed to distract you, it’s often really hard to connect with yourself. But you’re probably tired of ignoring your inner thoughts and piling them up in the back of your mind like dirty clothes. You’re exhausted and you don’t really know why. Well. it’s time for you to come home to yourself. It’s time to turn within and love who you find. When you do things for yourself, on your terms, you are re-affirming that you are worthy, you are loved and you are valued.

Self care can prevent and overload burnout, it can reduce the negative effects of stress and can help you refocus. It’s true, overload and stress can serve a purpose, like getting that assignment in on time, but after a while, it just breaks down your mind and body, and we don’t want that. When I get stuck writing an article, or editing photos, or working out a tricky problem, I take a break, whatever that may include on that particular day. Taking a break is the epitome of self-care and as many studies show, helps you perform better in the long run. So what would your self-care menu look like?

Keep in mind, self-care (a major buzz word for sure), can look like a lot of different things for different people. For me, believe it or not, it’s sometimes getting to the bottom of my unopened emails or DMs. For me, that brings peace. Most of the time though, it’s taking my dogs for a walk, FaceTiming a friend abroad, carbonating my boring tap water or just simply breathing. Yes, it can absolutely be a bubble bath, but don’t limit yourself to the notion of self-care having to look or be glamorous, because most of the time, it’s not.

They can be things that require little to no costs, things that focus on our body, mind and spirit, or maybe things that require little time. To create your list, ask yourself these questions:

How does my body or my mind like to be cared for? How can I best care for my spirit? What can I do to care for myself that’s free, and what are some things I might want to save up for? What can I do for myself that takes no time at all and what is something that I can invest serious time in?

Want to watch Milly speak at The Mindful Collective's #theselfcareexperiment from your lounge-room? Hit the replay below!

While we are at home trying to work, home-school, exercise, connect and just survive, remember that before all of those tasks and titles you bestow upon yourself, you’re a human first. You still need time to rest, to heal, to grow, to connect. So let this be your permission, if you haven’t already given it to yourself.

If you need a little support staying accountable to self-care, be sure to download the free GRLKND App for a daily check-in experience and access to mental wellness resources.

About me: Hi! I'm Milly Bannister, a communications expert and mentor, backed by a Bachelor's Degree in Journalism & Media, and certification in Human Research and Suicide Prevention. I'm the Founder & Director of GRLKND, a non-profit organisation connecting female-identifying youth to mental health resources. With the purpose of advancing self-belief and kindness in high-school leaving and college-aged women, our self-development curriculum and online support community is backed by a board of female experts and psychologists.